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welcome! to emotional feelings, 4!
after looking things over here at emotional feelings, 4,
try out "the layer down under," (part of the emotional feelings
network of sites) & read a special "i just gotta say it" column concerning porn addiction by clicking here! Be sure to scroll down towards the bottom of the right hand column to find it!
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another great suggestion... visit the homepage! you can read more about the emotional feelings network of sites there, as well
as, a heads up about who is feeling what emotions within the network each month!
click here! Bob Woodruff: Turning Personal Injury Into Public Inquiry click here!
I was personally very touched by this inspiring story as I watched it on
television last night (2/27/07); especially after I experienced a life altering injury which took me 2 years to recover from.
What I want to ask you is...
If you can't help out with the helmets, below for our military men, can
you volunteer or help our returning soldiers who are recovering with extreme traumatic brain injury?
Here are some links!
Check them out, I know that my family will be searching for a way we can help! Remember that those with traumatic injuries might develop mental health problems.
What is Operation Helmet?
Founded in 2003 by Dr. Robert H. Meaders whose grandson is an active duty Marine in Iraq, Operation Helmet is a nonpartisan 501(c)(3) organization dedicated
to providing safer helmet pad upgrade kits to the troops in Iraq & Afghanistan.
To date, more than 6,000 kits have been shipped to the troops in the field.
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You'll
notice that there are many underlined link words in each article below. The reason for this is that you have reached not only, "emotional
feelings, 4," but the emotional feelings network of sites. There are many sites included
within the network that'll be visited by clicking on these underlined link words.
If you can't find what you came
here looking for, visit the homepage for the emotional feelings network of sites by clicking above & read the options on
the homepage for the networks index of sites. Try to be specific when looking for an emotion or feeling word & click on the site you need!
It's very simple & very
interesting to follow your way thru the layers of your buried or stuffed emotions & feelings that have accumulated throughout the years!
when you've reached this point, or this website, you know you're making
progress!!!! this part gets difficult because now is the time to look within & become emotionally honest with yourself!!!
Best of luck & if you're
still stuck, send me an e-mail anytime, by clicking here & I'll be glad to send you an immediate personal response!
Sincerely,
Kathleen
Deceit
Deliberately misleading thru ruse or trick. From the Latin decipere, to take from. When we deceive others (or ourselves),
we "take away" something they (or we) need - often, simply the
truth.
Oh, what a
tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.
Walter Scott
Found often in both its purest form & in character compounds with other elements, Deceit usually
bonds with negative self elements such as anger & fear.
As a deliberate
misrepresentation of the facts, deceit is usually thought of as an aggressive act to further one's own ends, typically thru defensive concealment of the truth.
The most prominent person we deceive in the
course of our lives is ourselves & psychologists often focus on this more passive deceit (specifically,
"repression" & "denial").
As Lincoln & Scott pointed out, deceit is almost never totally effective & often compels deceivers to keep trying, i.e., to cover one lie with another.
An unusual side-effect of deceit is its ability to strongly affect what elements become active or even dominant in
others. In deceit, we abuse others' trust, a positive self element reflecting on the deceiver not the
deceived.
This may cause those we deceive to feel
at least a modicum of naiveté once our deceit is discovered. Deceit often works
& often has that unusual side-effect, because of widespread expectations of honesty.
Lies
reduced to practice.
Robert Smith
Communicating with Ourselves & Others
© 1999
Michele Toomey, PhD
michele@mtoomey.com
The communication network within our inner world is very complex. Messages get transmitted in physical sensations, visual images & thoughtful reflections.
They all get sent to various parts of our brain where they're received & if our system is in good working order,
this part of the communication process is done automatically.
So far so good. However, in addition to this automatic system we're able to participate in the communication process & now comes the real complexity ... our involvement.
We can interpret, react, reflect, process, evaluate, judge, translate, make associations on everything & anything that enters our system.
A big alert should now be beeping on our screen, because if we don't learn how to participate in the integrity of this system without breaking the rules, we'll not be able to communicate the truth of:
- who we are
- what we're experiencing
- or what we need
This processing of psychological information that contains feelings as well as thoughts can be violated very
easily, so it's of utmost importance that we learn the rules of the system & how it functions.
Our communication network functions in the following way:
1. A message is received, either
from ourselves or from another.
2. It triggers a spontaneous reaction
that has emotional feelings in it that have been shaped by our past & by our degree of investment in the information.
3. That reaction, along with the
message that triggered it, now goes thru our system with a "charge" attached to it:
If it's strongly negative or positive, it's "highly charged."
The more highly charged message travels thru our network with greater intensity. The greater the intensity the more
"heat" it generates, causing the system to speed up & search to understand what's happening as it experiences strong emotional response.
4.
Once a reaction is registered
& its intensity is felt, the message & our reaction to it must be processed.
Processed isn't judged, not just reacted to again & again & not just analyzed or solved.
Processing information means making connections & associations that give us insight into our reaction & response to a message, when we proceed to reflect on what we discover & then formulate a position & a response.
Processing information is more
complicated when the message is "hot" or highly charged. The intensity brings an urgency & a speed with it that triggers
associations, ideas & reflections that are also hot.
It also takes greater discipline
to process "hot" messages, because the urgency & intensity may excite us to only react to our reaction, setting up a chain reaction.
If we get caught in a chain
reaction we need to be able to recognize the chain reaction, gather insight from it & then relate it back to the initial message & then
process them all.
5. Processing information allows us to use our imagination to travel thru our 3 time zones of the past, present & anticipated future to look for associations & memories that add clarity & complexity to our reactions to the message.
This clarity & complexity give us depth & greater intimacy with ourselves.
6. As we process, we're to reflect on what we've discovered from the search. Then as we better understand how we're relating to this information, we're ready to formulate our relationship to the message
& the position we're taking relative to it.
Our relationship to a message is the most intimate dimension of our communication system. The more clarity & complexity we've gained in the process the more insight & intimacy we have with ourselves.
7. We then articulate either to ourselves
or to another the complexity of how we're relating to the message & that's self-expression with accountability.
It's an honest expression of what we think & feel & understand about our relationship to the message & it allows others to now be connected & intimate with us.
8. This
process of sending & receiving, reacting to & processing information without hostility, judgment or deception is the way our communication system works if it's not violated.
We can violate our system by deceiving
ourselves about how we're relating to the data or by judging either the message, or our reaction to it, or by reacting to our reaction.
Deception violates the system because now we can't discover the truth about our relationship to the message, so there are lies & therefore error in the system.
Judging violates the system because the purpose of the communication network is to connect us to the information & to ourselves. If we judge we add a layer of good or bad, right or wrong to what we're thinking or
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