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Your dictionary definition of:

disappointment

\Dis`ap*point"ment\, n. [Cf. F. d['e]sappointement.]

1. The act of disappointing, or the state of being disappointed; defeat or failure of expectation or hope; miscarriage of design or plan; frustration.

If we hope for things of which we have not thoroughly considered the value, our disappointment will be greater our pleasure in the fruition of them.

Addison.

In disappointment thou canst bless.

Keble

2. That which disappoints.

Syn: Miscarriage; frustration; balk.

disappointment

n 1: a feeling of dissatisfaction that results when your expectations aren't realized; "his hopes were so high he was doomed to disappointment" [syn: letdown]

2: the act of disappointing someone [syn: disappointing, dashing hopes]  

"The greatness comes not when things go always good for you.

 

But the greatness comes when you're really tested, when you take some knocks, some disappointments, when sadness comes.

 

Because only if you've been in the deepest valley can you ever know how magnificent it is to be on the highest mountain."

Richard M. Nixon

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about disappointment

 

Coping with disappointment is part of life. It's something we all have to do. And it never gets easier to deal with. We just get more practice at it. There'll never be a time when any of us get past the point of being open to disappointment.

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disappointment, intensely felt by all ages...

The reason is simple: the potential for disappointment surrounds us constantly, no matter how young or old we are, whether it's other people, our own performance or life itself that lets us down.

You can use disappointment to improve your life if you:

  • Practice flexible thinking to help you "roll with the punches."

  • Look at your expectations & make them realistic.

  • Choose activities which make your life more satisfying.

  • Share your feelings with someone else or write them down.

  • If you can't influence an event, accept it. If you can, work hard to make your dream a reality.

  • Learn from your disappointments, then move on.

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"There's no disappointment in memory, and one's exaggerations are always on the good side."
 
George Eliot

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Coping With Disappointment

By Eric Butterworth

Unity minister Eric Butterworth, 86, Theologian, Lecturer & Author of 16 books died April 17. He inspired hundreds of thousands with his message that positive attitudes create personal renewal.

 

His congregation was Unity Center of NY; his pulpit, New York's Lincoln Center.

 

I love the story
Charles Edison, former Gov. of New Jersey, tells of his father, Thomas Edison. He says in 1914 when the Edison Industries of West Orange, New Jersey were practically destroyed by a great fire, most of Edison's life work was going up in flames.

 

So the young man, concerned, looked about for his father & he finally came upon him. The man's face was ruddy in the glow of the flames.

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looking ahead... leaving disappointment behind...

He wrote, "My heart ached for him, no longer a young man, everything being destroyed." Then he says, "My father spotted me & he called out, Charles, Charles, run get your mother. She will never see anything as beautiful as this fire as long as she lives."

 

So, even in its destructiveness, Edison saw the beauty of the fire because, you see, he was a researcher. He'd spent all of his life learning how to cope with disappointment.

 

The next morning, walking about the charred embers of all of his dreams, Edison said," There's great value in disaster because all of our mistakes are burned out. Thank God we can start again!"

 

Three weeks later the Edison Company delivered the first phonograph.

You might say,

But Edison was an unusual man.

He was different. He was special.

Or, we say of Jesus,

But he was the son of God.

But Jesus said, "All that I do you can do too."

Each of us has the God potential within to rise above any & all disappointment. In life you'll have many trying times, but there is a tremendous capacity within us to rise above any situation, any challenge, any limitation.

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Always we must know that if I'm discouraged or disappointed it's not because of what happened, it's a result of my own consciousness, my own negative awareness.

You can decide that you're going to meet all things from the highest possible perspective. Your job isn't to *set* things right but to *see* them right.   

The problem of disappointment always - comes from neglect of ones spiritual life. I'm not talking about going to church or worshipping God in a formal way. I'm talking about his awareness of his own wholeness, the awareness of his own God-Self manifesting within him.

So if he listened more to the inner voice & less to the clamorous voice of the external world, he would find a strength & a courage that would insure him against discouragement.

The sad thing is that most persons are obsessed by the pessimistic wailings of hearsay & they say & what they read in the papers & the worlds tragedies & troubles.

So they have little time to listen to the voice of the infinite within themselves. In a sense, as the Christmas story reveals, they had no room in the inn to receive the creative flow.

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Now of course we should understand that if you love your misery & you want to nurse your discouragement & your feelings of failure, it's your privelege.

Anyone has a perfect right to stew in his own juices if he wants to. But remember, you're in your cave because you want to be there. When you're sick of being so negative you can open the window & turn on the light at anytime. Anytime you can overcome. The disappointment is a result of your own consciousness. Your own negative awareness.

Unity Center of New York , (212) 582-1300
213 W. 58th NY, NY 10019  

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"There will be little rubs and disappointments everywhere, and we are all apt to expect too much; but then, if one scheme of happiness fails, human nature turns to another; if the first calculation is wrong, we make a second better: we find comfort somewhere . . . "
 
Jane Austen

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feeling loss begins in childhood

Coping With Loss & Disappointment

Nancy Recker, Extension Agent, Family & Consumer Sciences, Allen County

Loss touches all of us & death isn't the only cause of our losses. Losses & disappointments happen throughout the life span & affect personal & family lives. We lose our health, good friends who move away, jobs & spouses thru divorce.

We suffer the disappointment of missed promotions, the loss of financial security, loss of our children & grandchildren thru family disputes & the list could go on. We may face loss & disappointment regularly & never really stop to consider what's happening to us.

Have you ever suffered from a loss or disappointment? Maybe you have & don't even realize it - you just thought that was how life was supposed to be.

Learning to recognize your losses & learning to deal with them can help you throughout your life as you face additional losses. You can find meaning in your losses & in spite of the pain, learn from your experiences.

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Recognizing Losses

Many research studies have been conducted on the grieving process & handling death, but few studies have focused on managing the change brought about by disappointments & losses.

Whenever we experience a change that requires giving up familiar patterns, we suffer a loss or disappointment. In a research study conducted by Family & Consumer Science Extension Agents, over 500 people were asked to tell about their losses & disappointments, rate the severity of them, what feelings they had & what helped them to cope with or get over them.

Most of us recognize the obvious losses such as death, divorce, or loss of a favorite possession. But it's important to realize that the less obvious losses & disappointments can also be very significant.

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Losses

  • Health: physical & mental illnesses, injuries, chronic diseases

  • Relationships other than divorce: siblings & family estrangement, unhappy marriages, problems with children, grandchildren, co-workers, friends

  • Work / financial: jobs (loss of a job, downsizing, changing jobs), businesses, homes (moving, fires, etc.)

  • Divorce

  • Death

  • Pregnancy issues (unfaithfulness, unexpected children, miscarriage, abortion, infertility)

  • Losses from violence (rape, sexual assault)

  • Loss of a dream or vision

  • Loss of independence & self-esteem

  • The most shocking experiences of loss are those that alter the structure & functioning of our personal & family life.

These kinds of losses & disappointments can have lasting impacts.

 

Much of the grieving we do comes from those losses that are easy to identify. The source of grief is obvious when someone dies, we experience a divorce, or we move away from our family & friends. 

 

The not-so-obvious losses & disappointments are more difficult to identify. An exciting event such as the birth of a baby may bring the loss of independence. Or a job promotion may bring the loss of valued clientele.

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Grieving Is an Individual Experience

 

Grieving is an individual experience. A major loss for one person, may be only a minor disappointment to another. The intensity of the loss or disappointment is often dependent on the significance of what was lost.

 

The time span for recovery is also very individualized. For some, recovery may take only a few months, but for others experiencing the same or similar loss, it could take years.

 

Every person works out his or her own method of surviving or coping during times of loss. Some people turn to friends while others like to be alone. Some seek out support groups & counselors while others stay at home & cry.