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welcome! to emotional feelings, 4!
after looking things over here at emotional feelings, 4,
try out "the layer down under," (part of the emotional feelings
network of sites) & read a special "i just gotta say it" column concerning porn addiction by clicking here! Be sure to scroll down towards the bottom of the right hand column to find it!
just
another great suggestion... visit the homepage! you can read more about the emotional feelings network of sites there, as well
as, a heads up about who is feeling what emotions within the network each month!
How this site works best for you!
You'll
notice that there are many underlined link words in each article below. The reason for this is that you have reached not only, "emotional
feelings, 4," but the emotional feelings network of sites. There are many sites included
within the network that'll be visited by clicking on these underlined link words.
If you can't find what you came
here looking for, visit the homepage for the emotional feelings network of sites by clicking above & read the options on
the homepage for the networks index of sites. Try to be specific when looking for an emotion or feeling word & click on the site you need!
It's very simple & very
interesting to follow your way thru the layers of your buried or stuffed emotions & feelings that have accumulated throughout the years!
when you've reached this point, or this website, you know you're making
progress!!!! this part gets difficult because now is the time to look within & become emotionally honest with yourself!!!
Best of luck & if you're
still stuck, send me an e-mail anytime, by clicking here & I'll be glad to send you an immediate personal response!
Sincerely,
Kathleen



3 New Choices That Dismiss Dark Conditions - By Guy Finley
One reason we must learn
to say "Yes" to life - regardless of how much we may not want what it brings - is that whenever we embrace a fearful or negative view of some unwanted situation, not only must we still find our way thru the twists & turns of such trials, but now
we must also walk thru them blinded by what is no less than the darkness of our own discontent.
The only thing most of us know to do when life takes an unwanted turn, bringing us what we don't
want, is to take a turn for the negative ourselves. And when the circumstance in question really makes a wreck of things, not only do we summarily reject the event seen "at cause," but for good measure we often will turn our wrath upon our own lives, pronouncing them "not worth living"!
Such flashes of frustration born from our growing sense of futility make sense on the surface of things & even seem curative to the self that feels so impossibly stuck. But a closer look proves otherwise.
What many have yet
to understand is that dark, negative reactions to unwanted events do nothing to cure them. In fact, these painful impulses have just the opposite effect. They
actually "cement" things - fixing both themselves & the false sense of self thru which they then are empowered to run their unhappy course. Here is some help to see the truth of this.
Each negative response that passes unconsciously thru us actually confirms its own dark perception that life has "done me wrong"!
But this is only half of its occult operation.
This same conclusion
- of having been somehow victimized by an uncaring world - virtually locks the door on the possibility
of ever discovering the real lessons & the truth behind these times of trial.
Whenever life runs
counter to your wishes, try to see that it really isn't life that has denied you your happiness, but that the real culprit responsible for darkening the moment is some idea you have about what you need to be happy.
Admittedly, this new & higher perception takes courage, because instead of struggling to change the "dark" condition called into question (or just silently stewing over it), you must
turn & face the false self responsible for this outlook.
But the truth is
there is really no alternative, not if you can see that as long as this demanding self stands unchallenged within you, so will the painful pattern of fighting with unwanted events continue to occur.
The next time that
life comes knocking with what you "don't want," instead of allowing yourself to be dragged thru the old round-around, make
these 3 new choices & watch how they dismiss the darkness knocking at your door:
Your
first choice (always!) is to come wide-awake to yourself. Remember:
Your new aim is to not allow old, mechanical reactions to rule the day.
Then, in this awareness
of yourself, see that the unpleasantness of the offending moment isn't actually in the event itself but is an effect of resisting your own perception that something has taken away your happiness. Key here to escaping this circle of self-perpetuating punishment is in coming awake to its existence & how not wanting
to feel a certain way is giving you the very feeling you don't want!
For your second new choice, stop complaining to yourself (& others) about what life has "done" to you. All you're really doing is recreating the very
dismal state-of-self you are condemning. Consciously choose to go the other way, which brings us to the third & most important choice in this exercise:
Say "yes" to life. Instead of blindly refusing moments
that seem contradictory to your contentment & then arbitrarily pushing them away, learn how to embrace these unwanted moments. Bring them into your real life, into
the light of self-awareness, instead of trying to get rid of them. Your conscious embrace invites these times to tell you about the self they help to reveal. Freedom follows.
-- Guy Finley
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Growth from Discontent ... Life's way of giving you a little push. By Edward
B. Toupin
That strange, gut-wrenching feeling you have isn't the sushi you had for lunch. It's your soul trying to give you a nudge to
do something. A word for that feeling is "discontent."
Discontent is a state of not being satisfied or fulfilled in your current situation.
Of course, this same feeling can apply to a hundred different situations, from a work-related issue to a personal issue
at home. But, the resulting meaning is still the same: "make a change." Some people listen to that feeling & change their life in such a way as to eliminate that feeling.
However, some people that fall into discontent, but tend to remain in that situation as they find it a place of "same-ness" & "safety."
Souler Greenhouse
Discontent is actually a "souler greenhouse" of change. It's
the first warnings you receive that things aren't what they should be & that a change is required to correct the situation.
Discontent comes
when there is juxtaposition between needs & desires. Usually, you're pursuing a need, achieve it & then continue to pursue the ideals of the same need. This occurs because you don't know what to do once you reach the objective.
However, once you achieve a need, you need to move on to the next pursuit.
Many people find
that discontent for a given situation is acceptable. For instance, discontent with your work might
feel acceptable because you have to make money & care for your family.
In this way, you learn to overcome the discontent by accepting the obligations. However, while this may work, it isn't necessarily the route to take. Indeed,
you might need the job, but this feeling is calling for an evaluation as some aspect of the situation needs attention.
Discontent can provide you w/either a reason to stay right
where you are or a fertile environment from which to move forward. While it does provide a way
for the Universe to bring attention to a situation, we sometimes become so accustomed to the feeling that it becomes part of our life.
In such a case, if we adapt & the discontented
feeling is resolved, we'll miss it.
Growth
Growth from discontent is an amazing change. Again, comparing to the greenhouse, it can either smother you, or help you grow. However,
change from discontent is something that you have to execute consciously,
because discontent can also provide you with a safety zone.
By accepting discontent in one part of your life, it can spread into other
areas of your life. You can become satisfied with the feeling because it becomes familiar.
However, you end up working on parts of your life in hopes of resolving the feeling when you find that, once that part of your life has changed, you still feel the same.
Growth
occurs because you feel a push, or pull, to move in a direction. The objective is to obtain a balance such that the discontent disappears. Once you
achieve the necessary change, you'll be able to leave the discontented feelings behind you.
Focus on the situation that makes you feel the discontent, not on other issues that may, or may not, make you feel better. The contented feeling from "doing busy work" or fixing something that isn't broken is fleeting, unless you tackle the core issue.
The
growth comes in once you embrace the change. When you move from an area of the familiar, you must learn something new or different to
adapt to the unfamiliar. However, in this transition, you are putting your life back in balance & moving forward, which eliminates those feelings of discontent.
What's next?
Don't let discontent drag you down!
Listen to your gut! It'll always tell you when change is necessary. It might be a simple gnawing feeling or a twisted knot. In either case,
be honest with yourself & trust that feeling.
Discontent
is the universe's way of telling you
that a change is necessary within yourself to resolve the situation. It's there to warn you of
situations & guide you when things need to change.
To make the change, you have to know where you are & where you want to be in the near future. However, the one
thing to keep in mind is that you want to achieve some type of balance to counter the discontent.
Remember that discontent is
caused from an imbalance in one or more parts of your life. Ask yourself & focus on, what it is that's causing you the
most concern. Once you're able to determine the issue, only then can you set out on a goal that satisfies the feeling.
Such an approach will not only restore balance, but it'll also allow you to move forward to a more fulfilling life.
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