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dis·sat·is·fied   

adj.

Feeling or exhibiting a lack of contentment or satisfaction

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Dissatisfaction

Dissatisfaction often begins unfocused. There may be a sense that things should work better. People may be complaining. Students may be unhappily waiting in long lines. Customers may complain that costs are too high for the service being provided.

 

Employees may be discontent with their work life. Patients may be complaining that they have to wait too long. Doctors may be unhappy with how long it takes to get test results. 

 

For dissatisfaction to initiate change it must be:

  • acknowledged 
  • put into perspective 
  • prioritized 
  • related to process  

Acknowledgement of dissatisfaction occurs when someone chooses to understand it. Data is the key to ensure that dissatisfaction is acknowledged. Without data gathered, analyzed & reported on a timely basis - the acknowledgement of dissatisfaction is haphazard.

 

Dissatisfaction is put into perspective when there is data to quantify it & when the interrelationship of stakeholders & conflicting satisfaction factors is understood.

 

Prioritization of dissatisfaction is done by understanding the impact of it & selecting what's critical to act upon. This is the result of an analysis of the perspective gained by understanding various stakeholder interests & the messages contained in data.

 

The results we get are a direct result of the processes we use. Understanding the relationship of what we do & what we get, cause & effect will enable us to relate dissatisfaction to specific processes. We reduce dissatisfaction by changing the processes that produce it.

 

When dissatisfaction is acknowledged, put into perspective, prioritized & related to process it becomes focused. At this point we can work to improve it scientifically.

 

Tools that will help with the acknowledgement of dissatisfaction include:

  • surveys 
  • focus groups 
  • interviews 
  • secret shopping 

monitoring & reporting critical success factors on an ongoing basis using statistical tools

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SITTING WITH DISSATISFACTION
The Fundamental Principle of Healing with Mindfulness

 

It's our bodies that carry and express our dissatisfaction
and we express dissatisfaction with our bodies.
We're hard on them and we're hard with them.
We expect more from them.
It's our frailty that frustrates us.
Even the strongest man is not strong enough.


I'm only satisfied when I'm sitting with my dissatisfaction,
although I spend enough time distracting my self from that.

What is it God said when he had finished creating creation?
"It is Good". He expressed satisfaction.
God is satisfied.
We are not.

We must sit with our dissatisfaction and heal it or live with it.

We must sit with our dissatisfaction until it transforms -
Until we can smile again,
until we can reconnect with our beauty and love.
We cannot jump there - or we can, but it doesn't last.
I wonder why.
Happiness is a cover-up, a temporary respite. A break.
It only hides and does not relieve our dissatisfaction.
It doesn't work as remedial therapy.
It is a goal and not a means.

True happiness is our ability to sit with and transform our dissatisfaction.

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If a Genuine, Deep & Permanent Satisfaction with God is our Goal & Eventual Outcome, it might be said then that even a slight dissatisfaction is a primary motivating feeling, the expression of which becomes the job of the emotions. It might even be the cause of emotions, for without dissatisfaction, what need of expression.

If the middle way (meditation & the meditative state) is the still point or the point of perfection, then even the slightest deviation from it (in either direction) is an expression (of dissatisfaction). And the extremes of deviation from the balanced unmoved state manifest in mania & depression.

 

Happiness & sadness? What are they but moderate human expression. We call them emotions & seek relief from their power over us. But for what reason?

 

Because somewhere inside of us we're working out of some sense of dissatisfaction. If satisfaction is perfection & we don't feel it then what we are feeling is dissatisfaction & for the most part running away from it.

Satisfaction is the elimination of dissatisfaction & how do we do that except thru transformation? The ability to feel joy & happiness, joyous & happy on an everlasting basis, is predicated upon the removal of dissatisfaction. And the removal of dissatisfaction requires the Samyama Process (the three level of knowing) of  identification / discovery, contemplation / work & satisfaction / success.

Dealing With Dissatisfaction Is Our Job. It's the work that we do - whether we like it or not & even when we're running away from it. We're still running away from something we feel we can't deal with. But we aren't really cowards as we might be led to think & it may be & probably is unperceived by us, but underneath the running & maybe the whole purpose of it, is the idea of escaping long enough to be able to figure out a solution.

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Paying conscious attention to this fact is our source of power. It empowers us to empower ourselves.

Even our "happy" emotions are mostly expressions of relief from something else, some other antithetical dissatisfaction.

Our bodies are dissatisfied; therefore we're dissatisfied with our bodies. But our bodies are storehouses of unprocessed, unremembered memories of events. (See "Imports/MindSight")

 

And they're also the means by which the unprocessed becomes processed. They're digestive transformative objects - the means by which transformation occurs.

They're transforming - in both senses of the word, active & objective. They're the transformers of everything, including themselves. They transform (themselves) & transform (everything inside & outside of themselves).

Our minds, however, are like separate organisms altogether. They seek to keep everything the same. We must take our minds off of their projections long enough to allow our bodies to do the work - to catch up with events, to process, to digest, to transform.

Sitting with our feeling of dissatisfaction will allow that to happen & it's the only thing that will allow that to happen.

Dissatisfaction - Sit with it or live with it.


So in sitting with our dissatisfaction we discover our basic nature. And looking into our basic nature we rediscover our happiness thru eventually feeling & manifesting our own personal beauty & love.

 

And if we can't, then we must sit with or live with our dissatisfaction. The difference is - living with it is living with it, but sitting with it is giving it the conscious attention it needs in order to express itself & be transformed & that's our power.

 

Then our dissatisfaction won't have to go around looking for people in whose company it feels comfortable enough to express itself, or victims in whose company it feels safe enough to act itself out.

Only by giving conscious attention to our bodies can our dissatisfaction be felt. And in being felt it transforms - digests, as it were - & that's the feeling we get of it "going away", like every other pain - of digestion, headaches, tummy aches & heart aches. WE ARE the transformative elements, WE ARE the missing elements for the transformation of unhappiness.

My only satisfaction is sitting with my dissatisfaction, for that is the work to be done, the only work worth doing. The transformation of dissatisfaction leaves nothing else. 

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Parental Dissatisfaction w/Joint Custody

By Trish Wilson, © 2002. All rights reserved by author

 

"The Impact of the Custody Plan on the Family: A Five-Year Follow-Up. Executive Summary. Statewide Office of Family Court Services, Administrative Office of the Courts, State of California. Margaret A. Little, Ph.D., Los Angeles County, Family Court Services; Hugh McIsaac, Directory. May 1991.
http://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/programs/cfcc/pdffiles/impcus.pdf.

Excerpts

"...studies of families who came to joint custody thru litigation, rather than amicably agreeing to it, suggest that highly conflicted families may be unable to overcome their animosities sufficiently to make joint custody a viable option for them."

"The relatively few fathers who sustained a joint physical custody arrangement over the 6 years between the divorce & the interview are more likely than nonresidential fathers to report that they share in making decisions about their children, are involved in a range of activities w/their children & are satisfied w/both the legal & physical custody arrangement. This finding is consistent with previous research. What hasn't been noted in previous research is that the mothers in these families are less likely to report being satisfied with the legal & physical custody arrangement than mothers who have sole physical custody. Thus, in terms of parental satisfaction, any increase in the incidence of joint custody may have a mixed outcome."

Description of Current Custody Behavior

Turning to the self-reported custody behavior of the families interviewed, most of the families reported that the children reside with their mothers & about 1/4 reported little or no contact with their nonresidential parent, usually the father. However, 44% of the families said that the children have at least one overnight with each parent each month.

Thus, two very different types of post-divorce custody patterns of behavior can be seen in this sample. For some families, the divorce resulted in the children being raised almost exclusively by one biological parent.

For others, both parents are meaningfully involved in their children's lives. It's inaccurate to assume that co-parenting is typical of all post-divorce families, but it's also inaccurate to assume that it's normative for children to lose contact with one parent following the divorce. In this sample, both post-divorce custody behavior patterns were fairly common.

Most nonresidential parents & joint custody parents stated they wanted to spend more time with their children.

The only group of parents in which the majority were satisfied with the amount of time they have with the children were those who reported having primary physical custody of the children, suggesting parents view anything less than primary physical custody as insufficient time with their children.

Thus, in most divorced families, whether the custody arrangement is primary residence with one parent or shared physical custody, at least one parent is dissatisfied with the amount of time he or she has with the children. In joint custody families, both are often dissatisfied."

In terms of legal custody, high levels of joint decision making are associated with high levels of contact between the children & both parents. At least partially as a function of this relationship, parents who reported the children reside with both of them reported higher levels of joint decision making than those who reported that the children live primarily in one of their homes.

In terms of satisfaction, residential parents were more likely to report being satisfied with their role in decision making than parents who reported that the children reside with the other parent.

"As with satisfaction w/the amount of time spent with the children, a small percentage of joint physical custody parents were dissatisfied with their role in decision making than among nonresidential parents, but also a smaller percentage were satisfied than among parents with primary custody."[Citing Steinman, Zemmelman & Knoblauch (1985)]

It's notable that fathers rate higher on the conjoint decision-making scale than do mothers. Across every category, the group means for fathers are higher than those for mothers. This finding has implications for researchers relying solely on reports from one parent. 

Comparison of the Initial Custody Order & Current Custody Behavior

Initial physical custody orders awarding the mother primary custody demonstrate a great deal of stability over time. The overwhelming majority of others & fathers showed a similar pattern of contact w/the children when they were the nonresidential parent.

No evidence was found in this survey to suggest that nonresidential mothers & fathers behave differently. However, the sampling design (i.e., excluding families w/initial order of primary custody to the father) limits the potential of this research project to assess gender differences in post-divorce custody behavior.

These families reported that the children still reside with the mother at the time of the interview. Joint physical custody plans show more fluidity; only 36% of those with an initial custody order of joint physical custody reported in 1989 that the children still reside with both parents.

Those families awarded joint physical custody at the time of the divorce & who reported sharing physical custody in 1989 are characterized by the following:

  • initial custody plans that gave the children equal time with each parent
  • less conflict at the time of the divorce
  • mothers who aren't remarried
  • fathers with higher incomes 
  • parents who live in close geographic proximity

As has been found in other studies of divorced families, these survey data suggest that fathers awarded joint physical custody at the time of the divorce continue to have more contact with their children over time than nonresidential fathers.

However, in the absence of information about the family dynamics at the time of the divorce, it's impossible to know if the initial custody plan itself has an impact on later custody behavior or if the initial custody order is simply an indicator of other dynamics in the family that are crucial in determining the father's level of contact with the children following the divorce. 

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10 Signs of Job Dissatisfaction - Don’t Ignore Them!

The new year is a great time to analyze your job satisfaction.  As you make your new year’s resolutions, include career fulfillment as a top priority.

 

There are 10 sure signs that you're experiencing job dissatisfaction. 

 

If you: 

  • Dread Mondays or coming to work
  • Can’t wait for Friday
  • Are often bored at work
  • Feel tired or chronically fatigued
  • Avoid your boss & dread meetings