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distanced - distant
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doubtful - doubted
dysfunctional

 
nowhere within the emotional feelings network of sites is any opportunity for me to make any profit from any of the 28 + sites within this network. this network of sites has been put together as a personal mission to help others by informing those who need information concerning mental health, eating disorders, lifestyle factors, and every other topic listed within.

navigational hint: all underlined link words open up a new window instead of changing your present one, taking you to another site within the emotional feelings network of sites - or to another site referencing the underlined link word!

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 It's very important that you visit the next page: keeping in touch!
 
Reason being: If you're here because you're searching for an answer to your feelings of dissatisfaction, unhappiness, feeling sick, or just general feelings of misery in your life - you need to find a volunteer opportunity that you feel comfortable with.
 
For a life changing listen - click here - it's truly life changing and something we all need to listen to. It does take some time to listen to Randy Pausch's Last Lecture, but you won't regret it.
 
You can help yourself by helping others. You might not think so; but it's true. Find something you can do to help some worthy causes. "Keeping in Touch" will show you some important causes that need you!
 
Why not just click here now to get it over with! So even if you leave this site after finding some information concerning an emotion or feeling... you'll also leave with the seed of thought concerning volunteer work that might produce some results bringing you a sense of accomplishment & find yourself feeling better!

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Your Dictionary Definition of:
 
de·fec·tive
   adj.
    1. Having a defect; faulty: a defective appliance.
    2. Marked by subnormal structure, function, intelligence, or behavior: defective speech.  falling below the norm in structure or in mental or physical function

n. Offensive

One who is physically or mentally deficient.

 welcome...
 
i'm really glad to see you!
 
you've found your way to
 
the emotional feelings network of sites
 
"emotional feelings, 4"
emotions & feelings beginning with the letter "d"
 
What was once - (five years ago) - only
"anxiety understanding"
is now an entire network of self-help personal growth & recovery journey informational websites.
 
I welcome you to
"the homepage of emotional feelings, 4!"
which, if you read it thru to the bottom will explain what is included in the entire network of 28+ sites.
 
 
kathleen

click here to visit anxieties 101!

5 years ago I was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder, depression & I was also experiencing an eating disorder that no one knew anything about; night eating.
 
While I was miserable in experiencing all the symptoms of post traumatic stress, an anxiety disorder & depression - which often accompanies anxiety disorders; I was overjoyed in finally finding out what was wrong with me!

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Why would someone spend 1000's of hours designing & keeping up these websites to offer free information to others?

I have to reply - "You're absolutely right! It does take many, many hours each day to work on these sites. I'm a mother, a wife & an individual who has tons of personal work to do as well as the usual family responsibilities!
 
How would I find the time?
 
Why do I do it? I use the opportunity to combine my own recovery - personal growth journey with an important concept that I've made a commitment to:
 
"Helping yourself thru helping others..." 
 
I was so excited when after years of searching for the answer to my everyday question, "What's wrong with me?" that I felt determined to show others that if you don't quit & you know the path to take, you can find your answers as well!

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My immediate concern was "mental health." While I didn't know what was wrong with me, I did have one medical specialist tell me that my physical pain was due to a "mental problem."
 
I didn't quite understand it all, I was wallowing in many different symptoms of mental illness like panic attacks, severe anxiety & finally my eating disorder symptoms of waking up numerous times in the night to eat.
 
Just as you may have seen recently on either public service television commercials for depression or in your doctor's office waiting room; mental illness can manifest itself in physical symptoms that include many sources of discomfort. I was also experiencing the symptoms of "irritable bowel syndrome," that had started early on in my life.
 
So I started with the mental health site that now exists within the network:
 
 
(be sure to read the following description)

i've made this cake! it's fantastic!

I've reached a point in my own personal recovery & growth journey that I believe I can describe accurately most of the emotions & feelings within the emotional feelings network of sites without using any information from anyone else.
 
But since the ruination of the "extremely emotional" site - I had to stop & ask myself - remembering to be aware & mindful of what's happening in my present moment -
 
"Why did this happen to me?" (the unreasonable ruin of my site, of course!) 
 
or - Choosing to seek a positive return for a negative energy passing my way - what would the positive ramifications be of having to go through every single page of a network of 28+ sites to delete the links to my ruined site?
 
Geez... now that I think of it... I've asked myself that question quite a few times before... "Why did this happen to me?" & I searched & searched for an answer, wasting time & positive energy on something very simple... Life is what's happening. Just look to find the positive about it instead of the negative
 
This is what I am looking for now in all aspects of my life. I'm looking for the "positive" reasons things happen. I remember what I've learned from my past to be prepared to have to confront negativities with my re-gained "power & control" on my side now instead of the enemy; but I choose now to look upon the face of countenance instead of upheaval.
 
After pondering a few days on this subject, while going through every page of the emotional feelings site - here - to unlink all the emotion & feelings words "s" thru the end of the alphabet - I realized something magnificent.
 
"This is my opportunity to take the time to check ALL linked words to be sure they're being directed to the correct places. This is my opportunity to re-check spelling & grammar. This is my opportunity to try to express in my own words - the most meaningful knowledge I've recently acquired!
 
I'll write what I've learned about the whole cake, almost 6 years of growth - not just reveal a the first piece of the cake! - I still offer other author's works to explain situational inferences to emotions & feelings!
 
I'll try to the best of my ability to explain the importance of every emotion & feeling. I'm honored you chose the emotional feelings network of sites to visit!
 
kathleen

c'mon!!! click the link and send me an e-mail!

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A note to my visitors....
I had to add "defective" because so many people are feeling defective in today's world.... I see it written everywhere! Check it out here, if you're feeling defective, maybe something here will help you!
kathleen

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welcome! to emotional feelings, 4!

 

after looking things over here at emotional feelings, 4, try out "the layer down under," (part of the emotional feelings network of sites) & read a special "i just gotta say it" column concerning porn addiction by clicking here! Be sure to scroll down towards the bottom of the right hand column to find it!
 
just another great suggestion... visit the homepage! you can read more about the emotional feelings network of sites there, as well as, a heads up about who is feeling what emotions within the network each month!

click on the box below to read my monthly column!

click here to read it now!

 
click here!  Bob Woodruff: Turning Personal Injury Into Public Inquiry click here!
 
I was personally very touched by this inspiring story as I watched it on television last night (2/27/07); especially after I experienced a life altering injury which took me 2 years to recover from.
 
What I want to ask you is...
If you can't help out with the helmets, below for our military men, can you volunteer or help our returning soldiers who are recovering with extreme traumatic brain injury?
 
Here are some links!
Check them out, I know that my family will be searching for a way we can help! Remember that those with traumatic injuries might develop mental health problems.
 
 
 

What is Operation Helmet?

Founded in 2003 by Dr. Robert H. Meaders whose grandson is an active duty Marine in Iraq, Operation Helmet is a nonpartisan 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to providing safer helmet pad upgrade kits to the troops in Iraq & Afghanistan. To date, more than 6,000 kits have been shipped to the troops in the field.

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How this site works best for you!
 
You'll notice that there are many underlined link words in each article below. The reason for this is that you have reached not only, "emotional feelings, 4," but the emotional feelings network of sites. There are many sites included within the network that'll be visited by clicking on these underlined link words.
 
The reason for this opportunity is very simple & yet you may be unnerved by all those underlined words! I've been in recovery from post traumatic stress disorder, depression & many other dysfunctional ventures & thru it all I've discovered that emotion & feeling work may be the missing link that many people miss when trying to find solutions to their problems.
 
Developing a sense of curiosity about why you feel the way you do, is essential in finding the solution you so desperately are searching for.
 
If you can't find what you came here looking for, visit the homepage for the emotional feelings network of sites by clicking above & read the options on the homepage for the networks index of sites. Try to be specific when looking for an emotion or feeling word & click on the site you need!
 
It's very simple & very interesting to follow your way thru the layers of your buried or stuffed emotions & feelings that have accumulated throughout the years!
 
when you've reached this point, or this website, you know you're making progress!!!! this part gets difficult because now is the time to look within & become emotionally honest with yourself!!!
 
Best of luck & if you're still stuck, send me an e-mail anytime, by clicking here & I'll be glad to send you an immediate personal response!
 
Sincerely,
Kathleen

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an additional definition....
 
la·tent   
adj.
  1. Present or potential but not evident or active: latent talent.
  2. Pathology. In a dormant or hidden stage: a latent infection.
  3. Biology. Undeveloped but capable of normal growth under the proper conditions: a latent bud.
  4. Psychology. Present & accessible in the unconscious mind but not consciously expressed.

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Creative Or Defective?

At the IONS international conference in September 2003, the Institute's research department conducted a pilot survey exploring relationships among:

  • bodily sensitivities
  • creative expression
  • transformational practices 
  • transpersonal experiences

From 500 returned questionnaires, we were able to determine predictors of transpersonal experience. By "transpersonal" I mean a broad brush of numinous experiences, everything from telepathy to encounters with angels or UFOs.

We found that people are likely to have experienced some aspect of the transpersonal if they're:

  • (a) feeling types (as compared to thinking types)
  • (b) practice one or more of the creative arts
  • (c) engage in some form of mental discipline (like meditation)
  • (d) are open to unconventional claims
  • (e) are interested in possibilities more than facts

These factors resemble creative personalities in general, suggesting that the perceptions & experiences of the highly creative minority differ - sometimes dramatically - from the experiences & resulting worldviews & belief systems of the less creative majority.

Creative perceptions can be challenging to conventional minds. Indeed, from an orthodox perspective, creativity gone wild is synonymous with madness. For many academic psychologists, the public's persistent belief in the paranormal, i.e., is explained by one of 3 hypotheses:

The "ignorance hypothesis" asserts that people believe in the paranormal because they're uneducated or stupid. The "deficiency hypothesis" asserts that such beliefs arise because people are mentally defective in some way, ranging from low intelligence or poor critical thinking ability to full-blown psychosis.

The "deprivation hypothesis" proposes that these beliefs exist to provide a way to cope in the face of psychological uncertainties & physical stressors.

Studies conducted to examine these hypotheses have produced mixed results. Some authors claim that their results show that paranormal beliefs do indeed provide a feeling of control over life's uncertainties, but that such control comes with a high price:

Other investigators report complex relationships between personality factors such as extraversion & beliefs about precognition.

Still others have examined traditional beliefs about the so-called "religious paranormal" (miracles as described in religious doctrine) vs. the "secular paranormal" (telepathy or UFOs) & found no support for any of the traditional explanations.

There have even been studies of belief & reported paranormal experiences among psychotic populations (both manic-depressives & schizophrenics) & healthy people. Again, no clear picture has emerged from these studies.

So perhaps there's another, simpler reason for the persistent belief in the paranormal: Maybe some of those experiences are real. And maybe the reason that creative people report higher levels of belief in the paranormal is that they see things that others don't.

A recent experiment supports this idea. In 2003, Harvard Univ. psychologists Shelley Carson & Daniel Higgins & Univ. of Toronto psychologist Jordan Peterson, published an interesting study in Journal of Personality & Social Psychology.

They examined a property known as latent inhibition, which refers to an unconscious process that degrades our future ability - & possibly our need - to pay attention to stimuli that have had no consequences in the past.

Imagine, i.e., that Pavlov's dogs were exposed to ringing bells without being fed. The dogs will quickly learn to ignore ringing bells, because the sounds have no meaningful consequence (no association with food).

Pavlov then decides to train his dogs to salivate whenever they hear a bell by ringing those same bells & then feeding them. Unfortunately, these dogs have already learned to ignore bells, so they're going to have a very hard time learning that there is now a meaningful association between bells & food.

Dogs that hadn't previously heard the irrelevant bells will quickly learn to salivate.

Latent inhibition serves an important perceptual function in our brains. It allows us to talk on a phone, sip coffee & drive a car on a busy highway, all at the same time & without a second thought. If we hadn't previously learned what is worth paying attention to while driving, we'd quickly become overwhelmed with information & paralyzed with uncertainty.

Latent inhibition is robust in healthy people, but when it goes wrong it can lead to serious problems. It's been studied extensively in schizophrenic patients because a key symptom of that disease is perceiving meaningful relationships everywhere, even when there aren't any.

Distorted associations are associated with low latent inhibition because it reveals that the mind is having trouble ignoring irrelevant information. The 2001 movie A Beautiful Mind, about the life of Nobel Laureate John Nash, suggested how this might appear from a first-person perspective. The tagline for the movie was "He saw the world in a way no one could have imagined."

That line is also a good description of creative people in general, so perhaps they, too, exhibit low latent inhibition. Previous experiments have indeed shown that low latent inhibition is associated with the personality trait "open to experience," which is in turn associated with divergent thinking & creativity.

But not all creative people are, or become, psychotic. Carson, Higgins & Peterson proposed that "some psychological phenomena might be pathogenic in the presence of decreased intelligence . . . but normative or even abnormally useful in the presence of increased intelligence."

They tested this idea on Harvard undergraduates who were given creativity measures, IQ tests, personality tests & a latent inhibition test.

They found that the high-creativity group had significantly lower latent inhibition scores than the low-creativity group & that the most eminently creative achievers (a subset of students who had published a novel, patented an invention & so on) had both lower latent inhibition & higher IQ scores compared to the other students.

Their finding supports the well-known association between genius & madness. Highly creative people have greater access no more of what the world presents; high intelligence helps one successfully navigate thru this flood of perceptions.

Low intelligence struggles in vain & the result may lead to psychosis. And even with high intelligence there is always the risk of becoming overwhelmed by a persistent state of expanded perception.

From this perspective, it's easier to understand why creative people report more psychic experiences & why the paranormal is often associated with psychopathology.

People who believe in the transpersonal aren't necessarily ignorant, mentally deficient, or deprived. They just see farther into the depths of the world than "normal" people do.

Of course, for the sake of mental health, the trick for every creative person is learning how to peer comfortably into that abyss without becoming swallowed up by it.

DEAN RADIN, Ph.D. is IONS' Senior Scientist. Dr. Radin earned a Masters degree in electrical engineering & a Ph.D. in psychology from the Univ. of Illinois, Champaign. He has held research appointments at Princeton Univ., Edinburgh Univ., Univ.of Nevada, and several Silicon Valley industrial research labs, where he has conducted basic research on exceptional human capacities, including psychic phenomena. His books include The Conscious Universe & the upcoming Entangled Minds. Dean's website: www.deanradin.com

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3 Steps To True Happiness - by Norm Ephraim

Let’s face it.  We all want to be happy. And we all realize, sooner or later, that outer success doesn't  produce lasting happiness. So what does? 

Loving ourselves & loving others.   In fact, we can only love others authentically when we're loving ourselves. So why is it that some people seem to feel self love easily, while others spend their lives searching in relationships or career accomplishments to find it?

While it may seem a cliche,  the answer does seem to point to experiences in childhood. What we know as self esteem begins, originally, in the esteem parents have for their children. 

Thru the simplest acts of touch, attention to feelings & guidance toward accomplishment, a child comes to see their own worth reflected in their parents’eyes.  They see themselves as loveable, i.e. worthy & able to be loved.

When thru various forms of abuse & neglect a child fails to get this mirror of love, two things happen. 

First the child begins to take in the feeling of defectiveness or un-loveability. Since, to a child, a parent is God, parental abuse & neglect (including insensitivity to feelings) is experienced as totally justified

If mommy or daddy treats me this way, it must be my fault?

A 2nd thing also happens. Children are masters at devising  strategies to get love or prevent abandonment. A common ”protective strategy" is perfectionism

“If I’m perfect, then mommy or daddy will love me? 

The search for perfection can become a lifetime one, whethere it be for the perfect partner, the perfect accomplishment, or the perfect amusement or “high?   But the result will always be disappointing.  Nothing can replace self love.

Is there hope for those who didn’t get enough love in childhood?  The answer is a resounding yes!!  But like anything worthwhile, it takes effort.  The key is in the way we experience our memories of parenting. 

Rather than being simply static memories from childhood, each of us carries within our mind an “inner parent" a voice which talks to us much as our parents did. 

If our parenting was primarily supportive, our self talk will be so also.  If our parenting was primarily negative, we'll tend to to be self critical much of the time. Some of this self criticism will be a simple replay of what we heard. 

More often, though, a child criticizes themselves to protect their relationship with parents. In this fact lies both the source of much of our distress & the seeds of our renewal.

Once we realize that people with high self esteem talk lovingly to themselves - especially when under stress & those with low self esteem are self critical, we create for ourselves a pathway to change

The goal becomes changing the way we talk to ourselves. There are 3 steps to changing our self talk.

Step One:  Awareness

It’s amazing how differently we can talk to ourselves at different times.  If we’re having a good day, our mind often reflects this in positive thoughts.

Often, at such times, our mind can be very quiet & peaceful. Contrast this with times we’re under stress or after experieincing some disappointment. At those times our mind can be quite negative & quite “busy."

In my experience, when our mind is full of anxiety & general static, we're often re-experiencing a “child state of mind."  In essence, a negative life event has sent us shuttling back in time to experience younger feelings. Once we can recognize how we’ve gone from feeling expansive & adult to insecure & childlike we have an amazing gift. 

We can feel compassion.

2. Compassion:

Whenever we shift into an insecure child state of mind (we all do at times), we each “go home" to specific inner experiences of support, abuse, or neglect.  Depending on our particular childhood, we will be able to generate self love & self care at such times, or not. 

But wherever happens, it’s not our fault.  This fact is crucial. Once we recognize that it’s only by the luck of the draw that we go home, in our minds, to inner parental support, we become more empathic. We can feel love for ourselves & our particular story. 

From that compassion we can truly take better care of ourselves. We can undertake authentic adult action.

3. Authentic Adult Action

In a child state of mind, we often feel passive & helpless. Our self talk includes either anxious statements like:

  • "I’ll never be good enough" 
  • "I can’t do it"
  • “If only" 

or self critical ones:

  • “snap out of it"
  • "grow up"
  • “stop making a mountain out of a molehill"

Once we recognize that we’re in a child state & have compassion to our unique childhood experience, we need to actively assert our adult energies. Authentic adult actions are those which help us shift us out of a child state  to a more expansive & adult sense of ourselves.

Simply put, authentic adult action involves greater self care.  Sometimes this involves just accepting our current feelings as a reflection of  earlier childhood experience. At other times, it includes actively taking better care of needs. Whether it be preparing a nice meal for ourselves or calling up a friend, authentic adult action is, in essence, being like a “positive self parent."

Often, too, authentic adult action involves challenging our stream of negative self talk. This is much easier to do when we realize that we’re in a child state of mind. For instance,whenever we’re having catastrophic “what if" thoughts about the future, we can become more relaxed if we recognize that our thinking may be more  that of a young child than a full adult. This can give us compassion & often,  a humorous perspective.

These 3 steps of awareness, compassion & authentic adult actions are, I believe,  the keys to greater self love & greater happiness.

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The 5 Inherent Defects of Traditional Decision-Making
By Bob Cannon