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Your Dictionary Definition of:
 
de·fi·ant
   adj.
Marked by defiance; boldly resisting.
boldly resisting authority or an opposing force; "brought up to be aggressive & defiant"; "a defiant attitude"

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Defensiveness

 
Although it's natural to want to protect yourself against personal attacks, try to not respond defensively or to try & get even. It's ok to feel hurt, but it isn't ok to criticize or to react in anger. It takes a decision to listen & not over-react. Listening can strengthen the intimacy in your marriage.

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Oppositional Defiant Disorder

Last Updated: March 30, 2006
 
Synonyms & related keywords: ODD, conduct disorder, disruptive behavior, defiant behavior, negativistic behavior, hostile behavior, disobedience, stubbornness, attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, ADHD, irritability, impulsivity, harshly punitive behaviors, peer rejection, noncompliance with commands, overreaction to life events, antisocial actions, learning disorders, parent management training, maladaptive parent-child interactions
 
 

Defining Oppositional Defieant Disorder
 
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, Fourth Edition, (DSM IV) of the American Psychiatric Association defines oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) as a recurrent pattern of:

behavior toward authority figures that persists for at least 6 months.

Behaviors included in the definition include the following:

  • losing one's temper
  • arguing with adults
  • actively defying requests
  • refusing to follow rules
  • deliberately annoying other people
  • blaming others for one's own mistakes or misbehavior
  • being touchy
  • easily annoyed or angered
  • resentful
  • spiteful
  • vindictive

ODD is usually diagnosed when a child has a persistent or consistent pattern of disobedience & hostility toward parents, teachers, or other adults.

The primary behavioral difficulty is the consistent pattern of refusing to follow commands or requests by adults.

Children with ODD are often:

  • easily annoyed
  • they repeatedly lose their temper
  • argue with adults
  • refuse to comply with rules & directions
  • blame others for their mistakes
  • stubbornness 
  • testing limits is common, even in early childhood

The criteria for ODD are met only when the problem behaviors occur more frequently in the child than in other children of the same age & developmental level.

These behaviors cause significant difficulties with family & friends & the oppositional behaviors are the same both at home & in school. Sometimes, ODD may be a precursor of a conduct disorder. ODD isn't diagnosed if the problematic behaviors occur exclusively with a mood or psychotic disorder.

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Prevelance & Comorbidity
 
The base prevalence rates for ODD are estimated to be 6-10% in surveys of nonclinical, nonreferred samples of parents' reports.
 
In more stringent population samples, rates are lower when impairment criteria are stricter & when the information is obtained from both parents & teachers, rather than from parents only.
 
Before puberty, the condition is more common in boys; after puberty, rates are nearly equal in boys & girls. ODD & other conduct problems, is the single greatest reason for referrals to outpatient & inpatient mental health settings for children, accounting for 1/2 or more of all referrals.

Diagnosis is complicated by relatively high rates of comorbid, disruptive, behavior disorders.

Some symptoms of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) & conduct disorder overlap. Researchers have postulated that, in some children, ODD may be the developmental precursor of conduct disorder.

Comorbidity of ODD with ADHD has been reported to occur in 50-65% of affected children.

In some children, ODD commonly occurs in conjunction with anxiety disorders & depressive disorders. Cross-sectional surveys have revealed the comorbidity of ODD with an affective disorder (mood disorder, such as depression) in about 35% of cases, with rates of comorbidity increasing with patient age.

High rates of comorbidity are also found among ODDs:

  • learning disorders
  • academic difficulties

Given these findings, children with significant oppositional & defiant behaviors often require multidisciplinary assessment & they may need components of mental health care, case management & educational intervention to improve.

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Clinical Course
 
In toddlers, temperamental factors, such as:

may contribute to the development of a pattern of oppositional & defiant behaviors in later childhood.

Family instability, including:

  • economic stress
  • parental mental illness - some info concerning this at teenscene - the facts page!
  • harshly punitive behaviors
  • inconsistent parenting practices
  • multiple moves
  • divorce

may also contribute to the development of oppositional & defiant behaviors.

The interactions of a child who has a difficult temperament & irritable behavior with parents who are harsh, punitive & inconsistent usually lead to a coercive, negative cycle of behavior in the family.

In this pattern, the child's defiant behavior tends to intensify the parents' harsh reactions. The parents respond to misbehavior with threats of punishment that are inconsistently applied.

When the parent punishes the child, the child learns to respond to threats. When the parent fails to punish the child, the child learns that he or she doesn't have to comply.

Research indicates that these patterns are established early, in the child's preschool years; left untreated, pattern development accelerates & patterns worsen.

Developmentally, the presenting problems change with the child's age; i.e., younger children are more likely to engage in oppositional & defiant behavior, whereas older children are more likely to engage in more covert behavior such as stealing.

By the time they're school aged, children with patterns of oppositional behavior tend to express their defiance with teachers & other adults & they exhibit aggression toward their peers.

As children with ODD progress in school, they experience increasing peer rejection due to their poor social skills & aggression. These children may be more likely to misinterpret their peers' behavior as hostile & they lack the skills to solve social conflicts.

In problem situations, children with ODD are more likely to resort to aggressive physical actions rather than verbal responses. Children with ODD & poor social skills often don't recognize their role in peer conflicts; they blame their peers (e.g., "He made me hit him.") & usually fail to take responsibility for their own actions.

The following 3 classes of behavior are hallmarks of both oppositional & conduct problems:

(1) noncompliance with commands

(2) emotional overreaction to life events, no matter how small

(3) failure to take responsibility for one's own actions.

When behavioral difficulties are present beginning in the preschool period, teachers & families may overlook significant deficiencies in the child's learning & academic performance.

When many children with behavioral problems & academic problems are placed in the same classroom, the risk for continued behavioral & academic problems increases. ODD behavior may escalate & result in serious antisocial actions that, when sufficiently frequent & severe, become criteria to change the diagnosis to conduct disorder.

Milder forms of ODD in some children spontaneously remit over time. More severe forms of ODD, in which many symptoms are present in the toddler years & continually worsen after the child is aged 5 years, may evolve into conduct disorder in older children & adolescents.

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Treatment
 
Given the high probability that ODD is a comorbid condition with:
  • attention disorders
  • learning disorders 
  • conduct disturbances

an evaluation for these disorders is indicated for comprehensive treatment.

Pharmacologic treatment (e.g., stimulant medication) for ADHD may be beneficial once this is diagnosed.

Children with oppositional behavior in the school setting should undergo necessary screening testing in school to evaluate for possible learning disabilities.

With the multifaceted nature of associated problems in ODD, comprehensive treatment may include:

If children with ODD are found to have ADHD as well, appropriate treatment of ADHD may help them to restore their focus & attention & decrease their impulsivity; such treatment may enable their social & behavioral interventions to be more effective.

Parent management training (PMT) is recommended for families of children with ODD because it'as been demonstrated to affect negative interactions that repeatedly occur between the children & their parents.

PMT consists of procedures with which parents are trained to change their own behaviors & thereby alter their child's problem behavior in the home.

PMT is based on 35 years of well-developed research showing that oppositional & defiant patterns arise from maladaptive parent-child interactions that start in early childhood.These patterns develop when parents inadvertently reinforce disruptive & deviant behaviors in a child by giving those behaviors a significant amount of negative attention.

At the same time, the parents, who are often exhausted by the struggle to obtain compliance with simple requests, usually fail to provide positive attention; often, the parents have infrequent positive interactions with their children.

The pattern of negative interactions evolves quickly as the result of repeated, ineffective, emotionally expressed commands & comments; ineffective harsh punishments; & insufficient attention & modeling of appropriate behaviors.

PMT alters the pattern by encouraging the parent to pay attention to prosocial behavior & to use effective, brief, nonaversive punishments.

Treatment is conducted primarily with the parents; the therapist demonstrates specific procedures to modify parental interactions with their child. Parents are first trained to simply have periods of positive play interaction with their child.

They then receive further training to identify the child's positive behaviors & to reinforce these behaviors. At that point, parents are trained in the use of brief negative consequences for misbehavior. Treatment sessions provide the parents with opportunities to practice & refine the techniques.

Follow-up studies of operational PMT techniques in which parents successfully modified their behavior showed continued improvements for years after the treatment was finished. Treatment effects have been stronger with younger children, especially in those with less severe problems.

Recent research suggests that less severe problems, rather than a younger patient age, is predictive of treatment success.

Approximately 65% of families show significant clinical benefit from well-designed parent management programs.

Regardless of the child's age, intervention early in the developing pattern of oppositional behavior is likely to be more effective than waiting for the child to grow out of it. These children can benefit from group treatment.

The process of modeling behaviors & reactions within group settings creates a real-life adaptation process. In younger children, combined treatment in which parents attend a PMT group while the children go to a social skills group has consistently resulted in the best outcome.

Concerns exist regarding the efficacy of group treatment of adolescents with oppositional behaviors. Group therapy for adolescents with ODD is most beneficial when it is structured & focused on developing the skills of:

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Obstacles to Treatment
 
ODD & other conduct problems, can be intractable. Despite advances in treatment, many children continue to have long-term negative sequelae.
 
PMT requires parental cooperation & effort for success. Existing psychiatric conditions in the parents can be a major obstacle to effective treatment.
 
Depression in a parent, particularly the mother, can prevent successful intervention with the child & become worse if the child's behavior is out of control.
 
Substance abuse & other more severe psychiatric conditions can adversely affect parenting skills & these conditions are particularly problematic for the parents of a child with ODD.

In situations in which the parents lack the resources to effectively manage their child, services can be obtained thru the schools &/or county mental health agencies.

Many states have effective "wrap around" services, which include a full-day school program & home-based therapy services to maintain progress in the home setting. Thus, effective treatment can include resources from several agencies & coordination is critical.

If county mental health or school special education services are involved, one person is usually designated to coordinate services in those systems.

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A Child's Defiance

Taken from Growing Concerns - A childrearing question-&-answer column with Dr. Martha Erickson

 

Question: I am exhausted by my daughter's resistance to everything I ask her to do. It seems that no matter what my demands, she defiantly refuses to cooperate. I end up pleading & nagging or even yelling, which gets us nowhere. How can I break this cycle?

 

Answer: Whether it's a toddler refusing to pick up her toys, a 10 year-old talking back, or a teenager resisting household chores, a child's defiance can make a parent's hair stand on end.

 

It's easy to rise to the bait & turn even a minor challenge into a major power struggle, but that ends up being miserable for everyone. Instead, there are steps you can take to defuse a conflict & help your child learn valuable lessons about respect & cooperation.

 

The first step is to choose your battles carefully. Decide in advance on the absolute rules or limits you must enforce & which ones are negotiable; i.e., with a teenager an absolute would be that experimentation with alcohol or drugs isn't allowed.

 

But keeping the bedroom neat might not be worth the battle.
(Just close the door!)

 

Then, when you do make a request or set a limit & your daughter resists, try the following steps:

  • Acknowledge your child's feelings. When kids grumble, they often just want to be heard. So simply say something like, "Yeah, I know doing dishes isn't the most fun thing to do. It will feel good when they're all done & then you can go have some fun."
  • Stand firm on your limit or demand & do this every time the issue comes up. Once you've decided that this is an absolute, nonnegotiable expectation, you can't afford to waver. Your daughter needs to see that whining or resistance will not wear you down
  • Within those absolute limits, offer choice as much as possible; i.e., an absolute limit might be that homework will be done every evening. But you might offer choices as to exactly when & where your daughter does the work.
  • If defiance still continues, calmly state what the consequence will be if she doesn't comply within the next few minutes. (Without getting carried away by anger, make sure the consequence fits the crime.)

Then, step back & allow your daughter time to comply. When kids are resistant, too often we parents move in closer & increase the volume & intensity of our demands. Then our child matches that intensity by increasing their resistance.

 

By stepping back instead, we allow the child to save face & "choose" to cooperate.

  • If that still doesn't work, impose the promised consequence swiftly & matter-of-factly. Shouting or bombarding the child with angry words does no good at this point. She needs to see that you meant what you said.
  • Finally, once the consequence has been imposed, move on without bearing a grudge. Let your clearly stated expectations & carefully chosen consequences speak for themselves. And let your daughter see that she can start fresh the next time.

Know that all children are defiant at times. And at certain ages, especially during the toddler period & early adolescence, defiance is especially common as kids struggle to prove their independence.

 

However, professional help is in order if defiance is very intense, lasts for many months, cuts across all situations & interferes with a child's ability to have warm, supportive relationships with family, teachers or friends.

 

Editor's Note: Dr. Martha Farrell Erickson, director of the University of Minnesota's Children, Youth & Family Consortium, invites your questions on child rearing for possible inclusion in this column. E-mail to mferick@tc.umn.edu or write to Growing Concerns, University of Minnesota News Service, 6 Morrill Hall, 100 Church St. S.E., Minneapolis, MN 55455.

copyright eMedicine
 
Author: W Douglas Tynan, PhD, Clinical Associate Professor of Pediatrics, Thomas Jefferson University of Philadelphia; Director, Primary Care Mental Health, Division of Behavioral Health, Alfred I duPont Hospital for Children

W Douglas Tynan, PhD, is a member of the following medical societies: American Psychological Association, and Society for Research in Child Development

Editor(s): Carol Diane Berkowitz, MD, Executive Vice Chair, Professor, Department of Pediatrics, Harbor-University of California at Los Angeles Medical Center; Mary L Windle, PharmD, Adjunct Assistant Professor, University of Nebraska Medical Center College of Pharmacy, Pharmacy Editor, eMedicine.com, Inc; Caroly Pataki, MD, Associate Program Director, Clinical Associate Professor, Department of Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences, Division of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, Neuropsychiatric Institute and Hospital, UCLA; Carrie Sylvester, MD, MPH, Director of Education in Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, Professor, Departments of Psychiatry and Pediatrics, Northwestern University Medical School; and Murray M Kappelman, MD, Professor, Departments of Pediatrics and Psychiatry, University of Maryland School of Medicine

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